Once upon a time I could be straight forward with my feelings. I could say whatever and live with the consequences no matter what. I had no problem with relationships.
That’s what people don’t seem to get.
When you’re young and first starting to date nothing is a problem. Yes, you may be scared of your feelings, and afraid to say how you feel, but there’s no fear because you’ve been hurt. Even after the second or third time that rule is the same, but after that…after that it’s 100% different. When people have hurt you time and time again it becomes hard to open up and be the real you. Why open up when you’re almost positive that a new person will hurt you like the last person did? Entertain them and give them what they want, before moving on to someone new. As always.
I say this because I think this generation, in particular, doesn’t understand how much cheating and/or lying truly does to a person. When you hurt a person who has opened up that much it messes them up for whoever comes after you. Whether you just meant to have fun, or for whatever screwy reason meant to hurt them, it really messes them up for the next person.
Also, after it has happened to you a few times in a row, you begin to believe everyone is the same. Why open up when you “know” they’ll turn out like the rest? I understand that you’re only “young once” and you wanna have your fun, but if that’s the case then have your fun and don’t waste someone else’s time. That’s why everyone is running around now saying “true love isn’t real”.
It’s not that it isn’t real. It’s that y’all played with emotions when you were younger, and now that you’re older and smarter no one wants to fuck with you cause they associate you with the person you were when you were younger and they play you thinking you’re still a player, when in reality you’ve made a complete change
This is coming from someone who has been hurt more times than I can count in the worst ways possible. If you wanna make it work put the best you forward. Not the you that will get pants to drop.